For athletes, high performers, and driven individuals, the mindset of “win at all costs” often starts young.

You were conditioned to chase excellence, to give 110%, and to believe that anything short of success equals failure. That mentality may have served you well on the field, in the gym, or in your career—but what happens when real life doesn’t work like that?

As a mom of four daughters, I know this battle firsthand—and my husband does too. Pressure to perform as a parent, a wife, a member of the community, as a business owner. Parenting, marriage, faith, home life—it can feel like an endless scoreboard. And when you’re wired for performance, falling short in any area feels crushing. We need to figure out where that line is in doing our best, feeling stretched is ok but not crushed. God never called us to be perfect. He called us to be steadfast, to be strong, and to run our race with endurance—leaning not on our own strength, but His because there is no we we can do it on our own.

Sometimes, the only person we’re competing with… is ourselves. We hold ourselves to impossible standards, forgetting that God offers grace, not scorecards. Growth doesn’t always look like a gold medal. Sometimes it looks like showing up tired, being present, and giving what you can—trusting that His strength fills the gaps.

For some of us, the pressure runs even deeper. Maybe you come from a long line of athletes, high achievers, or successful business owners—The hard truth is, when your identity becomes so wrapped up in your athletic ability and performance, what happens when that season ends? When you get injured or graduate from College? For many of us, the day our athletic career is over, we’re left feeling empty—wondering who we really are without the game, the wins (the losses), the team and the recognition. Thankfully, I was able to stay connected to sports and coaching for a while, and that filled my cup—but only temporarily. But what I didn’t realize at the time was that I had placed all of my worth and value in who I was, as a person, was in my identity an athlete, not my identity in Christ. It took me a long time to mentally “retire” my brain from that performance-driven identity. I’ve learned now to use it as a tool to stay strong and healthy, rather than allowing it to define my worth as a person. But I’ll be honest, there are still days I struggle with that tension, and that is what lead me to create Salt and Stone Strong. If I can help encourage you to continue to be an “athlete” whether it is on a field, in a gym, in a house, or at an office I want to do that for you now. If I can help you avoid some of the mental pitfalls I fell into….I can save you some heartache.

With that, the pressure to perform, to carry the family name (or get rid of it), it can feel unbearable. Or maybe your family story is different—a history marked by addiction, poverty, or patterns of failure that society says define you. Either way, here’s the truth: your family’s history does not determine your future.

You have the authority, through Christ, to break generational bondage—the silent expectations, the cycles of performance, the fear of failure—and step boldly into the unique calling God has placed on your life. Your story isn’t limited by what’s behind you. In fact, the peaks and valleys your family—and you—have walked through can be the very foundation God uses to launch you forward.

It’s time to stop measuring your worth by performance and start living rooted in purpose, resilience, and the unshakable truth of who God says you are.

Now how do you get started?

That’s where the Salt and Stone Strong Athlete Mindset Program comes in. This isn’t just about physical strength—it’s about training and renewing your mind and spirit to stay grounded in your identity in Christ, no matter what life throws at you.

Through practical tools, biblical truth, and proven mindset strategies, we’ll help you:

Reframe your performance-driven thinking

Break free from unhealthy generational patterns

Build mental and spiritual resilience

Learn to give yourself grace while still showing up strong

Walk confidently in the calling God has placed on your life

We have 3 specific programs to help you renew your Mindset Daily. One for Moms, Dad’s and young athletes.

Your greatest strength isn’t found in your success—it’s found in knowing who you are, whose you are, and walking that out every single day.